Ham Do - Hamare Do

I was extremely tempted to write one more blog before vacations. This habit has caught up recently and i view it as healthy as blogging has prompted me to think in diverse directions, something which i was not doing at all before ... After an analysis of my own institution, indian team spirit, nudity, internet users ... "avuthu pottu" is now directed towards "number of siblings" . Hence, one more from the stable ...

Over the years, i have observed families with single, two or more than two children. One of my conclusions is that 2 kids is the best scenario which parents can have.

1) When parents have just one child, He becomes what is popularly called in China as "The Little Emperor" of the house. Right from the birth to teenage you will find that he would have been vaccinated for all sorts of unknown diseases ... fed all sorts of dietary supplements and food stuffs .... Sent to the most expensive school. He gets the best clothes picked up for him... People come,move,act and do all things at this fella's beck and call. He becomes the only object of attention in the house. Parents shover their entire love and affection on this child. They tend to hold on a lot to their only hope in old-age and display such a possessive attitude with the child that in most cases such kind parental love tends to spoil the child. The child is not taught on aspects of sharing and on most cases you will find such children irascible, OBESE, rebellious, maverick, Intelligent, talented, egoistic. Now in no way i am viewing these qualities as negative please ... you need some of them to survive in Kaliyug.

2) When parents have more than two children: Now one thing is sure, more than two children is simply a desire of parents to have child of a desired sex (especially male child some 20-30 years back). Parents always wish: "Oh !! this time i must have a male/female child" .. As it is said, Man proposes God disposes and hence the result you get double the pleasure (twins !! you dirty mind !!) ....

In case of 3 children : In this case children are never close in age to each other (obviously, mother can't go into labour for 3 consequtive times in say about 3 years) ... A generation gap is created (most cases a gap of 15 years between eldest and younget) ...
The youngest child is as a result of parents being satisfied by their effort to have a child of their desired sex ;) . This child the most doted one in the family. The youngest child finds that he has more than two parents (The eldest doubles up as parent in case .....). He acts like a rebel and the extra love confered upon him/her makes this case similar to one-child case which i have described in detail earlier.

The middle one is the most confused and his situation i personally empathize with ... He doesn't get special love/attention for neither being the youngest nor the eldest. In most cases, he acts like a non-descript member and is often left to fend for himself/herself. Being close in age to the elder one, the middle is made to use "Second-hand" stuff passed from the elder siblings. It's as if his growing years would never be either remembered by parents nor an effort would be made to record his growing years. Efforts put in middle child case are considered at best a formality. (Procreation effort not included here !!)
The eldest one in due course becomes a grandfather to the youngest one by the age of 30 ......

In case of four children or more which seldom happens these days, the house becomes a mini-playground with sounds from all corners .... In house "CHAOS RULES" but often there is "Order in Chaos" ... The parents better have plenty of money to give the best to their children and Oh Boy !! I salute to the MOTHERS who have 4 children or more ......

3) Having children in the house is anyday better than having none ... so don't be too proud about your blood & lineage and adopt a child so as to make your life as well as some needy's child's life better .....

4) Which brings me to the best case left that is (My case !!!!) 2 children ..... Ideal combination, good/proper sibling fights , sharing qualities inculcated at early age, proper maturity and development of appropriate responsible attitude and many many more . enough stuff to write another blog i guess.....